The holidays are often a time for family, traditions, festivities, and reflection. It can also be a time of stress for many. The unique intricacies of a blended family can add to the difficulties of the holidays. The holidays can bring mixed emotions and navigating requires thoughtful planning and an open line of communication for all involved. Here are 3 key strategies to help make this season peaceful and memorable for your blended family.
Communication
Being able to communicate effectively with family members within the blended family and with ex-spouses will be the keystone to a successful holiday. Discussing expectations with your partner and letting your children voice their thoughts will help build the foundation for creating new traditions and experiences for the holiday season.
Creating New Traditions while respecting individual traditions
Each family has their own history and ways in which they celebrate the holidays. This can be tricky for blended families trying to create new traditions, especially for children. Creativity is key. Instead of trying to replicate the past, try to form unique traditions that emulate your new family’s identity. Some examples may be volunteering, making a holiday meal together, or getting matching pajamas. Blending traditions is another option for keeping the holidays memorable. For example, if one family celebrates Christmas and the other Hanukkah, there can be a Christmas tree and also the menorah candles displayed.
Be flexible and patient
The dynamics of a blended family are diverse. During the holidays, remaining flexible and patient will help if emotions are running high. Sometimes plans don’t go exactly as anticipated, so being able to adapt and compromise when necessary will help to navigate these complexities. Change is inevitable in stepfamilies. Embracing these changes with an open heart can make a world of difference during the holiday season.
The holiday season can be a time of hope, joy, and bonding. Although it may be challenging, the holidays can be harmonious by prioritizing communication, respecting other traditions, and being flexible. This season can be a time to reinforce the connections within your blended family. There is no one-size-fits-all approach. Creating a warm and inclusive atmosphere where everyone feels loved and valued is most important.
Written by: Kim Schmidt, AMFT
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